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Subject: How do I get women to dance?
From: Cosilongo (Matthew Cooke)
Date: Friday 6th September 2002, 2:51 pm

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Have to agree with what Pres is saying here.

The key thing (in most places) is the quality of your dancing. You need to be able to dance well technically (in time with a good lead) and with good style. The style gets you noticed in the first place and makes it easier to get those first dances. Your technique is what gets you further dances with that woman (and her friends - if she enjoys her dance with you, she'll tell her friends - if she hates her dance with you, she'll tell her friends).

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A bit of a catch22 situation ... you need to be a good dancer to get a dance, but you need to dance to get to be a good dancer!

Its true that it gets easier to get dances as you get better, but fortunately there are quite a few places where even not so good dancers can get a dance. I think friendliness is as important as style and technique in getting dances.

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Pres is also spot on about the clubs. There are "friendly" clubs and "cliquey" clubs. Sometimes, becoming a "regular" at a club will make it much easier to get dances. For example, some clubs seem to be cliquey because there are a lot of men on the pull at them. The women who are there for dancing will tend to turn down any man they don't know, because they think the man's interests are more concerned with dancing of a horizontal nature than of a vertical nature. Once these women see that you do really want to dance (because you've become a bit of a regular at the club), they will be more likely to dance with you.
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It takes a bit of dedication to become a regular at a club where you keep getting turned down when you ask for a dance!

Some clubs seem cliquey because they are cliquey!
  

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Cheers,
               Ian
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